A few days ago, my two other friends and I were talking about what would happen if a third party is trying to go after another male or female who is already in a relationship and then we realized that there is this imbalance, or at least we feel there's an imbalance to this scale.
If a third party male goes after a girl who is already in a relationship, few things might happened.
i.The girl falls in love with the new guy and leaves her current partner.
ii. Girl does not fall in love with guy but think he is sweet and continues to friendzone him.
iii. Girl's friends thinks third party guy is super romantic and sweet and perhaps encourage her to be with him if the current one isn't as good.
iii. Girl thinks he is creepy and totally cut him off the picture.
Success rate = 2/4
Friendzoned rate = 1/4
Gets ignored rate = 1/4
From how you look at it, the third party guy keeps a positive image to himself and only a quarter of a chance to get himself into muddy waters.
However, if today a third party female goes after a guy who is already in a relationship, the following will happen:
i. She will be forever known as the bitch who stole / tries to steal someone else's man.
ii. Whore.
iii. Slut.
iv. Vixen.
v. Cheap.
vi. No dignity.
vii. Easy.
And every other nasty words that you can think of.
Do you agree or disagree with me? I believe that the balance of the scale is pretty off in this picture (like duh) but when it comes to this aspect of life, there really is a double standard no matter how we look at this.
Hey, this is quite an interesting post! Thank Goodness I'm married! Minus all these headaches. Hahaha!
ReplyDeleteHahaha! It's awesome that you are married because then, you would have passed this hurdle! I super love your mentaiko scallop post QQ
DeleteWell,that's the bitter truth..the world is not fair.
ReplyDeleteIn comparison, gays are widely opposed compare but to lesbian.
But whether if you are a guy or a girl its always wrong to try and grab someone whose already in a relationship...but hey, downloading music from the internet is wrong too :P
True to that! I guess equality will not come any time soon but hey, at least we are all trying, so good job, humans! :D
DeleteGoing for someone that's already with a partner is really shady.
ReplyDeleteThat there are double standards I agree, but frankly, I don't really bother with
it. Where does it get you anyways? You're better off looking past the curtains.
Lol if everyone thinks like you, this post would not exist anymore =P I guess it's different how everyone thinks! Perhaps the person that they are going after is giving them false hope as well. Just saying lol, not justifying it for them!
DeleteI agree!!
ReplyDeleteSame theory applies when a lady passed 30 has lesser value, lady who divorced is like worthless. But, guy who is over 30 or once divorced, wont be that kesian like the lady who went through those.